Things You Postponed Until It Was Safe
What’s in this article
he'd been putting off a trip with his father for four years. always the same reason, and always a good one — a launch, a hire, a quarter that had to land first.
The pattern
he'd been putting off a trip with his father for four years. always the same reason, and always a good one — a launch, a hire, a quarter that had to land first.
his father is fine. that isn't the ending. the ending is that he told me the list had eleven things on it, and he'd been adding faster than he'd been clearing.
the postponing isn't the problem. the criterion is. "when things settle" is not a date on any calendar, and a business that's working never produces that feeling — it produces a bigger version of the same week.
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The mechanism behind it
He had been postponing a trip with his father for four years. Always the same reason, always a good one: a launch, a hire, a quarter that had to land first.
His father is fine — that's not the ending. The ending is that he told me the list had eleven items on it, and he'd been adding to it faster than he'd been clearing it.
The trip. The second child. The instrument. The harder, smaller company. Saying it plainly to someone still alive.
The postponing isn't the problem. The criterion is. "When things settle" is not a date, and a business that's working never delivers that feeling — it delivers a bigger version of the same week. So the list keeps growing while the condition you're waiting for keeps not arriving.
What to do with it
his father is fine. that isn't the ending. the ending is that he told me the list had eleven things on it, and he'd been adding faster than he'd been clearing.
the postponing isn't the problem. the criterion is. "when things settle" is not a date on any calendar, and a business that's working never produces that feeling — it produces a bigger version of the same week.
comment MAP and i'll send you the pattern map — free. it's mostly about what you're waiting for.
The bigger picture
a business that's working never delivers the feeling you're waiting for. it delivers a bigger version of the same week.
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What is the main idea of "Things You Postponed Until It Was Safe"?
He had been adding to the list faster than he was clearing it. Six things that wait on "when things settle" — a feeling no working business has ever produced.
a business that's working never delivers the feeling you're waiting for. it delivers a bigger version of the same week?
he'd postponed a trip with his father for four years. always the same reason, always a good one.
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Is this about willpower or systems?
Systems. Willpower is finite and unreliable; the durable lever is changing the system, the environment, and the defaults underneath the behavior.
Who is this for?
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